There are a lot misconceptions of what an introvert is and the characteristics they display. Most of them are wrong and come from extroverts who are failing miserably to understand us. Unfortunately, they resort to mislabeling us since we don’t fit in their narrow view of acceptable social interactions.
So let’s try to break down what is and isn’t an introvert. If you don’t have the patience to read this full article here’s a quote that sum up an introvert.
“Introverts are like a rechargeable battery. They need to stop expending energy and rest in order to recharge. Extroverts are like solar panels that need the sun to recharge. Extroverts need to be out and about to refuel.” – Marti Olsen Laney
If you’re mind is blown and nodding your head profusely in agreement, then you’re an introvert my friend. However if you’re still confused or unsure, let’s break down some of the introvert myths out there.
Introverts don’t like to talk.
False. Introverts just don’t like to babble on unless we have something worth saying. We don’t enjoy small talk and so we don’t engage in it. But if you’re talking about something we really care about, we can ramble on just like extroverts.
Introverts are shy.
Kind of. Shyness stems from the fear of negative judgment. A true shy person has a fear of talking to people because of what they may think or some other consequence. Whereas introversion is a conscious preference for quiet or solitude especially after being in social settings. So although an introvert may show shyness as we all do from time to time. It’s not the true definition or characteristic of an introvert.
Introverts are rude.
Not really. Extroverts often confuse our need to slip away to recharge as being rude or anti-social. Depending on how we go about doing this it can easily be perceived as rude. (Sorry about that.) The fact we don’t really enjoy or engage in small talk puts people off as well. But again this is just a situation where extroverts are expecting everyone to act as they do. It’s like telling an extrovert that should spend more time alone and do less yapping. It wouldn’t fly.
Introverts don’t like people.
It depends. Introverts tend to stay close to a small set of friends and that’s how we like it. We’re not big on having a lot of acquaintances or meeting random strangers. Think stranger danger! We’re perfectly happy with the small selected group of people we have and don’t really feel the need to socialize with everyone we may meet.
Introverts don’t like to go out in public.
This is BS. Introverts just don’t like to go out in public FOR AS LONG as an extrovert might. Remember we have a social battery that gets drained after a set amount of time. When we’re ready to go, it’s time to go. We want to retreat and recharge. So it’s not that we don’t like to go out in public, we just have a finite amount of time we want to be out there.
Introverts always want to be alone.
False. When get drained of energy from social settings then we want to go and recharge on our own. But once we’ve done that we’re happy to be around other people again, preferably our small circle of friends.
Hopefully this clears some of the misconceptions about introverts.
Well you’re reading this article silly so chances are you may be. But if you need more proof, check out the following characteristics and see if they apply to you:
If you just shouted (internally) “Yaaaaasss” or “Finally” to most of the traits above, then you’re an introvert my friend. Chances are you’re already trying to forward this to your family and friends to validate that you’re not weird. Please do so! Either way you are welcome. Because you’re probably in two camps if you’ve read this far. You are an introvert and feel relieved and vindicated about who you are. Or you’re an extrovert that knows an introvert and you have better understanding of them.
I am happy for either side of the fence.The goal of this blog is to help empower introverts so they can move in this extroverted world with confidence and success. Hopefully we can create a world where we can find some common ground where introverts aren’t made to feel negative about who they are.
Have you ever been called too shy, anti-social or too quiet?
I Am Not Anti-Social, I Am Just Pro Me! I want to help fellow introverts embrace their unique personality in this extroverted world. It's time for us to unite & empower each other...but from afar in your own personal space away from me. lol