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What Is An Introvert?

There are a lot misconceptions of what an introvert is and the characteristics they display. Most of them are wrong and come from extroverts who are failing miserably to understand us. Unfortunately, they resort to mislabeling us since we don’t fit in their narrow view of acceptable social interactions.

So let’s try to break down what is and isn’t an introvert. If you don’t have the patience to read this full article here’s a quote that sum up an introvert.

“Introverts are like a rechargeable battery. They need to stop expending energy and rest in order to recharge. Extroverts are like solar panels that need the sun to recharge. Extroverts need to be out and about to refuel.” – Marti Olsen Laney

What is an introvert?

If you’re mind is blown and nodding your head profusely in agreement, then you’re an introvert my friend. However if you’re still confused or unsure, let’s break down some of the introvert myths out there.

Do You Feel People Misunderstand You?     

Have you ever been called too shy, anti-social or too quiet?

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Popular Myths That Are Wrong. Kind of…

Introverts don’t like to talk.
False. Introverts just don’t like to babble on unless we have something worth saying. We don’t enjoy small talk and so we don’t engage in it. But if you’re talking about something we really care about, we can ramble on just like extroverts.

Introverts are shy.
Kind of. Shyness stems from the fear of negative judgment. A true shy person has a fear of talking to people because of what they may think or some other consequence. Whereas introversion is a conscious preference for quiet or solitude especially after being in social settings. So although an introvert may show shyness as we all do from time to time. It’s not the true definition or characteristic of an introvert.

Introverts are rude.
Not really. Extroverts often confuse our need to slip away to recharge as being rude or anti-social. Depending on how we go about doing this it can easily be perceived as rude. (Sorry about that.) The fact we don’t really enjoy or engage in small talk puts people off as well. But again this is just a situation where extroverts are expecting everyone to act as they do. It’s like telling an extrovert that should spend more time alone and do less yapping. It wouldn’t fly.

Introverts don’t like people.
It depends. Introverts tend to stay close to a small set of friends and that’s how we like it. We’re not big on having a lot of acquaintances or meeting random strangers. Think stranger danger!  We’re perfectly happy with the small selected group of people we have and don’t really feel the need to socialize with everyone we may meet.

Introverts don’t like to go out in public.
This is BS. Introverts just don’t like to go out in public FOR AS LONG as an extrovert might. Remember we have a social battery that gets drained after a set amount of time.  When we’re ready to go, it’s time to go. We want to retreat and recharge. So it’s not that we don’t like to go out in public, we just have a finite amount of time we want to be out there.

Introverts always want to be alone.
False. When get drained of energy from social settings then we want to go and recharge on our own. But once we’ve done that we’re happy to be around other people again, preferably our small circle of friends.

Hopefully this clears some of the misconceptions about introverts.

How Do You Know If You’re An Introvert?

Well you’re reading this article silly so chances are you may be. But if you need more proof, check out the following characteristics and see if they apply to you:

  • You get energy from “down time” or “time alone”.
  • You become drained in social settings after awhile.
  • You tend to listen more than speak.
  • You would prefer to socialize with one or two people at a time rather than several people, or a large group.
  • You work better alone or with one person in the workplace.
  • You really need your personal space.
  • You are usually reserved or calm.
  • You think before speaking or acting.
  • You’re better focusing on one thing at a time and don’t like to multi-task.
  • You dislike small talk and prefer meaningful long conversations about certain topics.
  • You’re happy when social plans are cancelled.
  • You prefer that your weekends are free from forced social activities

If you just shouted (internally) “Yaaaaasss” or “Finally” to most of the traits above, then you’re an introvert my friend. Chances are you’re already trying to forward this to your family and friends to validate that you’re not weird. Please do so! Either way you are welcome. Because you’re probably in two camps if you’ve read this far. You are an introvert and feel relieved and vindicated about who you are. Or you’re an extrovert that knows an introvert and you have better understanding of them.

I am happy for either side of the fence.The goal of this blog is to help empower introverts so they can move in this extroverted world with confidence and success. Hopefully we can create a world where we can find some common ground where introverts aren’t made to feel negative about who they are.

About the Author Eddy with a y

I Am Not Anti-Social, I Am Just Pro Me! I want to help fellow introverts embrace their unique personality in this extroverted world. It's time for us to unite & empower each other...but from afar in your own personal space away from me. lol

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Damon says August 18, 2016

Hello Eddy,

I am introverted and I always will be. But the real reason I am writing is because I am interested in wealthyaffiliate.com and I wanted to introduce myself. I am a Black man about to turn 55 in a year. For 10 years I owned the top carpet cleaning websites and discovered/dominated that industry online. While my competitors were still using door hangers I was setting up sites and only paying .25 per click through Google. When the word got out about the ability of the internet then competition became fierce. Worse, I sustained serious injuries trying to make all the money. I am the one who will work himself nearly to death if in exchange the money is great. Today I am disabled from that line of work and the whole experience has me dealing with mixed feelings. On one hand I am disabled, stairs are hard and walking is a bitch. But I don’t clock in and I get to do what I like daily which is priceless. I am lucky that I did work for many years at various companies because I have a good income from Social Security right now, and in a year (55) I will be old enough to cash in on my pension.

The pension is why I am contacting you and interested in Wealthy Affiliate. You see, when I was 50 I was already chomping at the bait, or calling the pension department inquiring about what to expect in 5 years. The dollar amount they gave me was based on if I were to retire then, 4 years ago. They are not able to project the retirement payout years in advance, they can only tell you what you would get at the time that you call. Fast forward 4 years. I call again to see what it might look like next year and I was stunned. Four years ago I was told that the number could be higher or lower, depending on the economy. Since it is just as easy to think positive as it is to think negative, I tried to convince myself that if anything the dollars would increase over the five year time. They told me around $1,200 per month, which when combined with Social Security was close to a G a week. At 50, IF I would have got the dollars they stated and combined that with my Social Security, I would have nearly $4,000 per month coming in without working. To me, THATS WHATS UP! Well, that 4k has been cut in half in under 5 years. Instead of seeing a G a week without working, it is now more like $500 per week. That is ok at best and not acceptable. I mean, not working for it is cool because I have done plenty of hard work in my life.

Even off $2,100 a month I can move to another country and live like a prince, which is not off the table. I speak Spanish and can live in very good parts of Mexico for 1k per month and save a thousand a month. But Mexico ain’t going nowhere and I am stuck on that previous dollar amount that I was looking forward to for all these years. Simply put I want more. I am heavy into fitness, I read a lot and I have written four books. Two paperbacks and two ebooks. I have only made money on one of the books, about travel. I use to own a travel agency. I am an expert when it comes to boxing and could make a living betting fights. I am willing to completely commit to whatever it takes to make it in anything that requires working for it.

Hey, I retired at 50! I have some money and sustainable income for now, I also collect gold and silver. But I don’t have STRONG monthly income, that is the missing link. I felt ok with the thought of 4k a month while completely kicking back. Two thousand a month while kicking back doesn’t have the same feel. Hell how can it? I will be among the most astute and hardest working in WA. My question to you is, given the information that I have provided, does it sound realistic to make an extra $1,000 per month through WA by a year’s time? I understand the need to work hard, be patient and find my niche. But I am trying to get a feel for what is possible or realistic. If the answer is “no, on average that would take more like 2 years” then please say that. Again, I have shared with you some of my personality, my interests and my willingness to commit for the medium to long haul. That way you can have an idea if I could pull this off with WA.

“Holla at cha boy, you seem like a real dude that is doin the damn thang.” If you are really a White man posing as a Black man, then what I said “You seem likeable and successful at WA.” (Man you better be laughin at that shit!) One other question is that I don’t do social media. Can I still see a G a month without Twitter and all that shit?

Holla back.

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    Eddy with a y says August 18, 2016

    Damn Damon,
    You might as well have written a book here. lol And why would a white man pose as a black man? You know damn well that does benefit them. lol In any event, I appreciate you adding a comment here.
    And to answer your question, I doubt within a few short months you would be making $1000 per month. Unless you were focused on paid advertising where you can scale up quickly. But if we’re just talking about organic traffic, I doubt you’d see what you’re looking for. Like any business this takes time to build up. It’s designed as a marathon not a quick sprint. So this probably isn’t for you if you’re looking to make that type of money as quickly as you want.

    I always tell people in situations where they need large amounts of money quickly to get an offline job. But definitely don’t think a new business is going to resolve any immediate financial issues. Sorry if it’s not what you want to hear. But like you said, I’m known for keeping it real.

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